I have a really important question to ask you, and I want you think really hard about it, and then answer it honestly.

Would you rather be financially successful or spend more time with your family and friends?

Got your answer?

Good.

Did you say that you would rather be financially successful?

If so, you chose the wrong answer.

If you said you’d rather spend more time with your family, you chose the wrong answer.

What? This makes no sense!

Let me tell you something that could change the way you look at success and life dramatically. This can make a huge difference in your life if you really let it sink in.

WHY did you choose one?

People who are successful - TRULY successful in every area of their life, do NOT choose. They refuse to choose. They refuse to let one thing be more important than the other.

It’s all about having a healthy balance between the things that are important to you.

Who says you can’t have financial success AND also care about and spend time with your family?

Who says you can have money AND be spiritual?

You’ve been brainwashed into thinking you have to choose.

But if you look at this differently, you’ll see it really doesn’t make any sense to think about it that way.

Which is more important, your heart or your brain?

Obviously, the answer is both! You can’t choose one or the other, you won’t survive without both of them.

It’s the same thing with success.

I don’t care what anyone says, you need success in your life to be happy - whatever success means to you. It doesn’t have to be financial success, it can be excelling at a particular sport or being a wonderful parent, but you do need to feel a sense of accomplishment from something you do.

Grow, move forward. Don’t sit still. Definitely do not move backward. Both of those will only make you feel discouraged, worthless and depressed.

Starting today, right now, I want you to start challenging the current options you see.

Take away the limits. Pretend if you have to. Next time you come to a point where you think you have to make a choice - pretend for a moment that you don’t. Ask yourself these two questions:

- “Do I REALLY have to choose?”
- “How can I choose both?”

This forces your mind to come up with possibilities for how to have both.

I think you’ll find that once you open your eyes to this possibility, you’ll find there are many circumstances where you can “have your cake and eat it too”.